My wife and I went to First Fridays last night with my boy and his fiancée and had a great time. The DJ in the back room was killing it, playing a 90s hip hop set for pretty much the whole night. As I waited at the bar to order a couple of drinks, I overheard (or eavesdropped) a guy flirting with a girl at the bar, with him ultimately buying her a drink, which she gladly accepted. I chuckled and shook my head in disgust. I don’t know if buddy was able to seal the deal with her, but, it made me think about my single club-trottin’ days and I realized: I almost never bought drinks for women.
Now, I made a few exceptions from time to time, but there were only two scenarios in which I would buy a woman a drink. One, if you were my homegirl, then I had no problem with hooking you up. Secondly, if I had met a nice young lady at the bar and we had already been engaged in a conversation, then I might have dropped a little change on a drink for her because I enjoyed her company. However, I would never, EVER, buy a drink for a woman as a means to get her attention.
Quite frankly, I think it is corny and a waste of my “get drunk” money. During my single, party hoppin’ days, I began to notice that SOME women, attractive ones no less, would hang around the bar. They would flirt with a guy for a few minutes, smile and laugh at his advances, and then walk away with a glass of wine or a sour apple martini. Unfortunately, the naïve guy was $10 lighter and digit-less. Many times, I would see the same girl working the bar, getting drinks from multiple gullible guys–not just for herself, but her crew too.
The rationale behind my refusal to use a drink as an icebreaker is three-fold: 1) That drink is one less glass of whiskey that could be going down my throat; 2) The probability that my drink purchase would lead to me getting her phone number wasn’t 100%, so it was not worth the risk; and 3) I’m a man of pride, so I would rather get a woman’s number through the use of charm and personality as opposed to the use of variables such as drinks.
However, I’m a married man now so I buy drinks for my wife all the time. I’m blessed that she was receptive to my lame jokes and my attempts to impress her with my intelligence. I didn’t have to buy her drinks to reel her in. But, wait, I did buy her quite a few glasses of wine. Kimberly, you tricked me!!!
I think I have bought one drink for a woman I was trying to get with in my entire life. She was a Bangin Malaysian chick from the UK and all I ended up getting was a massage in the club. Which I was NOT mad at…at all.